16.10.15

10 Perks kids With Autism Get From Bullying, The Autistic Community’s Response.


10 Perks kids With Autism Get From Bullying,  The Autistic Community’s Response.

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An article published today by autism daily newscast.com has created a storm of disgust from the autistic community . It states that there are ten perks to being bullied as an autistic child.

The author is an applied behavioural analysis trainer.  

My son was a victim of bullying. It did not ‘ build strength’ or ‘ increase verbal communication with words’.

His speech regressed to the point of having difficulty verbalising at all.

It led to reduced self confidence and without disclosing to much, self injurious behaviour.

I was also a victim of bullying, it did not help me nor make me more neurotypical.

It caused me to self harm and take an overdose at age 13 after believing there was no hope.

It caused me to shut down, retreat further into my fantasy world and it also did not ‘ grow self confidence and self preservation’ either. It ripped me apart. At age 13 I was in hospital having bloods taken and my vomit tested to see how much Dettox had been absorbed.

I was referred to a psych team.

It gave me no survival skills and as a result I was targeted for domestic violence, as I had already been bullied it gave me the mistaken belief that there must be a reason this is happening, they must be right.

I must be wrong, not good enough and at fault.

I asked others for their opinion and was given the quotes at the bottom of the page.

Please read the following text.

This article promoted bullying and actually says it will help your child.

Please do comment I’m interested to hear your views.

Also notice the person first language.

The Article.

10 Perks kids With Autism Get From Bullying

By Karen Kabaki-Sisto

While the negative effects of bullying in school are real and cannot be pushed aside, there are benefits for peers, staff members, parents, and most importantly—your child with autism if everyone seizes the opportunity to act!

10 Good Opportunities from Bad Bullying:

 

  1. Promoting Autism-Friendly Programs: Bullying in schools can sometimes be the result of prejudice against the unexpected ways that children with autism speak and socialise. Not unlike other prejudices, this is an opportunity for parents and the school to promote social justice, tolerance, respect, and acceptance. Along with your help, schools should focus not only on integration within the mainstream for education but also guidance of how to better connect socially to their peers with autism – possibly through workshops or specially-structured activities.

 

  1. Team Work: Working together as a team in partnership with you as the parent, the school’s teaching staff, aides, principal, counsellors, and psychologists will provide the safest environment for your child to learn and enjoy.

 

  1. Autism Awareness Every Month: Not just during October’s National Bullying Prevention Month but always, more awareness of the bullying of kids with autism means more awareness of autism overall.

 

  1. Kids Learn Skills: Teaching your child how to deal with bullies increases her verbal communication with words, nonverbal communication like body language and facial expressions, survival skills, civil liberties, and independence.

 

  1. Builds Strength: As your child learns defensive skills from you, his friends, and his teachers, he is growing stronger connections with everyone.

 

  1. More Friendships: Discussing the communication and social deficits experienced by kids with autism puts greater social responsibility on their peers who don’t have autism. When it comes to a child with autism, being a proactive observer can make all the difference to prevent bullying and protect them. As a result, your child will spend more time with good friends, make new friends, and possibly will want to get involved in different activities with them.

 

  1. Overall Well-Being: Monitoring potential bullying activity requires the te7. aching staff to supervise more and create new interventions to ensure the well-being of your child.

 

  1. Healthy Relationships: Ways to deal with bullying also help your child deal with sibling rivalry, ‘stranger danger’, or any other personal threat.

 

  1. Increased Life Skills: With your child’s increased communication, survival skills, and independence, she will become more aware of the people around her. This makes your child a conscientious citizen and a good Samaritan towards other people who may be in need overall, not just due to bullying.

 

  1. Self-Esteem: Ironically, and in spite of the bully’s goal to do the opposite, your child will grow self-confidence and self-preservation esteem.

 

With your help, your child can take a negative force and turn it into a positive experience!

 

Yes take those shattered dreams and throw them into the air they will turn into star dust!

You can use them to fly kids, honestly!

The following quotes are from autistics and parents of autistics, the reaction is as follows:

“ I’m sure my son appreciates the bully that chased him down the street and stabbed him.

You don’t need bullies to recognise these things, or bring them to the fore. What you need is a heart and some understanding, and when did bullies ever have any of those basic human qualities?” .

Mairèad ÒFinn, mother to autistic son stabbed in the neck on his first I dependant walk to a nearby social group for autistic teens.

“ This is a modern twist on the bullying I got at middle school. “We’re toughening Stephen up for high school because the teachers there don’t care.”

Stephen Grainger, autistic.

“ This is such a dangerous thing to say and will only encourage BULLYING AND STIGMA! Why not ask the child who is being bullied that question? Bullying leads to trauma, depression, anxiety, physical symptoms and much more! This article is outrageous and promotes violence towards the Autistic community. Written by an ABA instructor who thinks Bullying Autistic children is beneficial?? The Autistic community are already suffering from STIGMA, BULLYING, ABUSE, EXPERIMENTATION WITH UNREGULATED PRODUCTS AND MUCH MORE! NOW AN AUTISM MEDIA OUTLET ARE ENCOURAGING BULLYING AND CLAIMING IT HAS BENEFITS! AUTISM DAILY NEWSCAST RECENTLY CENSORED AUTISTIC ADVOCATES AND PLACED AN EMBARGO ON SUBMISSIONS RELATING TO MMS AND GCMAF, BOTH OF WHICH ARE DANGEROUS UNREGULATED PRODUCT BEING GIVEN TO AUTISTIC CHILDREN AND ADULTS! WE ARE THEREFORE BOYCOTTING AUTISM DAILY NEWSCAST AND ASK THAT YOU SUPPORT US. AUTISM DAILY NEWSCAST DO NOT PROMOTE ACCEPTANCE OF AUTISTIC PEOPLE AND NOW INSTEAD PROMOTE BULLYING OF AUTISTIC PEOPLE! PLEASE SUPPORT THE AUTISTIC COMMUNITY AND SIGN OUR PETITION THANK YOU!”

Fiona O’leary, autistic mother to two autistic sons.

“ My son is haunted by the bullying he had at his primary school.  His anxiety made him chew his tops.  This gave him scabs around his mouth.  When the teachers weren’t looking they would all whisper in his ear about how dirty he was.  He was too scared to tell the teachers, but eventually told me, who had to tell the school.  Did they stop it, yes, did it help him, no, it made him even more withdrawn.  Is he still bitter about it, Yes, something he will never forget.  Did it make him stronger no?”

Heather Beattie mother to an autistic son.

“Bullying does not aid in a child’s communication. It hinders their ability to communicate. It causes self loathing, fear, resentment, depression and thoughts of suicide. Bullying has no “Perks”. To even suggest such a foolish idea shows you consider autistic individuals less than human. Bullying is inexcusable. Spinning  it into something positive promotes further mistreatment of those on the spectrum. It gives a license to those who do not wish to change their views on Autism. It perpetuates the belief that you can beat the autism out of them”.

Dominique Burnett, mother to an autistic daughter and two autistic sons.

“As a Mother to a non verbal autistic son, I’m offended that the writer suggests anything positive coming from bullying! Bullying is wrong full stop and should never be glorified. The writer’s suggestion should be done anyway as a preventative  measure and not as a result from bullying. This article made me very angry!”

Therese Johnson, mother to an autistic son.

“This article assumes too much. Not everyone has the courage to confront a bully or the fortitude to counter the bullies’ abuse.”

Jason Thayer, autistic.

“ First, baffled by the title. Then appalled. Then even more appalled as I commented on twitter re. the article and her response was “Karen Kabaki-Sisto @KarenSisto  · 2h2 hours ago  

@chromesthesia @WileyAutLibrary @AutismDNews Spider, We cant stop bullies 100%.  We can choose 2 use hurt as strength. Glad u commented.” I’m frustrated that “autism professionals” keep producing crap like this, keep able-splaining to autistic people who bring the mistakes to their attention, and dismissing concerns. But I’m glad that there’s a significant pissed off reaction. Maybe things are changing, but when crap like this appears, it’s not changing fast enough”.

Patricia Gabe, Autism advocate.

“ …sooooo……we should somehow welcome bullying as a way of introducing anti-bullying programmes. That is an interesting perspective. Let’s welcome rape as a means of promoting sex education or the Holocaust as a way of introducing anti-racist campaigns. As an autistic man and parent (and as a senior nurse and educator) I know what bullying looks like, feels like, I even know what it smells and tastes like. There is no ‘upside’ to bullying. Believe me. Then at the end I see it somehow leads to improved self esteem!! I could hardly believe my eyes until I then saw the article is written by an ABA ‘therapist’, a practice which is a form of institutionalised bullying and then it all makes sense. Shame on you Autism Daily Newscast for publishing this”.

Jules Curtis Akers, autistic and father to autistic son and daughter.

“ Bullying is for losers. Anyone that bullies are showing their true insignificant stupid self and they are lacking in intelligence or they wouldn’t pick on others as they are insecure with them selves so it makes them feel mighty and big to put others down.”

Sanni Rosenburg, autistic.

“First ADN attacks autistic advocates for undermining the qualification claims of dangerous maiming ghouls hiding out in the Dominican Republic advocating commercial bleach cures for autistic kiddies. Now this. Implosion by a single editor’s appalling sense of right and wrong, power-hungry adherence to pandering views of anti-autistic forces. Good comes in spite of evil, not because of it – and now you know which side you are on. Here comes some serious ostracism!  Sign the Petition to take this now Hate page down!”

John Greally, autistic and father to autistic son.

“ I would like to point out several big problems I have with this article, including, but perhaps most of all, the assertion that bullying can improve self-esteem, it has been 12 years for me since grade school, and to this day, I still battle depression, low self-esteem, PTSD, and anxiety, it has effected me romantically, socially, and professionally. I have basically grown apart from society as a result.”

Thomas Âû Wall, autistic.

 

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